11 tips from Roman Abramovich.
1. Many problems come from the mind. They are not the result of any events, failures, or actions of other people. They arise due to our bad mental habits. Free yourself from these 10 behaviors, and immediately get rid of the many problems each of them causes:
2. Don't jump to conclusions. This habit can make life difficult in two ways. First, we assume we know what will happen, so we turn off our attention and act on that assumption. People are lousy prophets. Most of their assumptions are wrong, and hence their actions are wrong. The second side of this habit is that we imagine that we can read minds, and seem to know why other people do, what they do, or what they think. Again wrong, and fundamentally wrong. It is this stupidity that destroys relationships like no other.
3. Don't be dramatic. Many make deadly disasters out of minor failures, and react accordingly. The habit of making mountains out of molehills creates anxiety that either does not exist or is so small that there is nothing to worry about. Why do they do this? Who knows? Maybe to look and feel more important. Either way, it's as stupid as it is harmful.
4. Don't make up rules. A huge part of all these “shoulds” and “shoulds” that you are running around with are probably useless. All they give you is nervousness and guilt. For what? By following these imaginary rules, you fill your brain with unnecessary obstacles and childish routines. And when you try to transfer these rules to others, you turn into a frighteningly boring whiner or a self-confident fanatic. 5. Avoid stereotypes and labels. The words you use can set you up. The language of negativity and criticism breeds the same kind of thinking. By trying to squeeze things into certain categories, you stop seeing their real meaning, thereby limiting your thinking to the point of complete uselessness. Look what's there. Don't label. You will be surprised by what you see.
6. Don't be a perfectionist. Life is not just “black or white” or “all or nothing”. In most cases, “enough” means just that: enough. If you look for the perfect job, you will most likely never find it. At the same time, all other jobs will seem worse to you than they really are. You will be looking for the perfect relationship, and you will probably spend your whole life alone. Perfectionism is a mental illness that will not allow you to enjoy, but will send you every time in search of what is not there.
7. Don't generalize. One or two failures are not a sign of permanent failure. And an occasional triumph does not turn you into a genius. A single event - good or bad - or even two or three events is not always a sign of a long-term trend. As a rule, things are what they are and nothing more.
8. Don't take it to heart. Most people, even your friends and colleagues, don't talk, think or care about you 99% of the time. People from your organization, or those living next door, have probably never even heard of you. Yes, actually, he doesn’t want to hear it. The ups and downs of life, the warmth and indifference of other people have nothing to do with you personally. If they pretend, it will only make you feel more miserable than necessary.
9. Don't trust your emotions. What you feel is not always a good indicator of what is actually happening. Just because you feel it doesn't mean it's true. Sometimes the source of emotions can be fatigue, hunger, irritation, or just a runny nose. Whether you feel good or bad, the future will not change. Feelings may be true, but they are not truth.
10. Don't give in to apathy. Practice being an optimist. If you expect bad things in life and at work, you will find them. A negative attitude is the same as looking at the world through distorted, dirty glasses. You will notice only the shortcomings, not paying attention or not noticing everything else. It's amazing how you can see something that isn't there if you just start looking. And of course, if you start looking for positive things, you will find them too.
11. Don't live in the past. This advice is the most important of all: forget and move on with your life. Most of the anger, frustration, unhappiness and despair in this world comes from people holding on to past hurts and problems. The more you replay them in your mind, the larger they will seem to you, and the worse you will feel. Don't fight misfortune. Forget and move on. Do this, and thereby deprive him of the power to hurt you.
Many of our problems are far-fetched. They do not appear as a result of some events, failures, or actions of other people. They arise due to bad mental habits. Free yourself from these 10 behaviors, and immediately get rid of the many problems caused by each of them.
1. Don't jump to conclusions
This habit can make life difficult in two ways. First, we assume we know what will happen, so we turn off our attention and act on the assumption. People are lousy prophets. Most of their assumptions are wrong, and therefore their actions are wrong. The second side of the habit is that we imagine that we can read minds and seem to know why other people do what they do. Again wrong, and fundamentally wrong. It is this stupidity that destroys relationships like no other.
2. Don't be dramatic
Many people make deadly disasters out of minor failures and react accordingly. Why do they do this? Who knows? Maybe to look and feel more important. Either way, it's as stupid as it is harmful.
3. Don't make up rules.
A huge part of all these “shoulds” and “shoulds” that you are running around with are probably useless. All they give you is nervousness and guilt. For what? By following these imaginary rules, you fill your brain with unnecessary obstacles and childish routines. And when you try to transfer these rules to others, you turn into a frighteningly boring whiner or a self-confident fanatic.
4. Avoid stereotypes and labels
The words you use can deceive you. The language of negativity and criticism breeds the same kind of thinking. By trying to squeeze things into certain categories, you stop seeing their real meaning, thereby limiting your thinking to the point of complete uselessness.
5. Don't be a perfectionist
Life is not just “black or white” or “all or nothing”. In most cases, “enough” means just that: enough. If you look for the perfect job, you will most likely never find it. At the same time, all other jobs will seem worse to you than they really are. Perfectionism is a mental illness that will not allow you to enjoy, but will send you every time in search of what is not there.
6. Don't generalize
One or two failures are not a sign of permanent failure. And an occasional triumph does not turn you into a genius. A single event - good or bad - or even two or three events does not always indicate a trend. As a rule, things are what they are and nothing more.
7. Don't take it personally
Most people, even your friends and colleagues, don't talk, think or care about you 99% of the time. People from your organization, or those living next door, have probably never even heard of you. Yes, actually, he doesn’t want to hear it. The ups and downs of life, the warmth and indifference of other people have nothing to do with you personally.
8. Don't trust your emotions
What you feel is not always a good indicator of what is actually happening. Just because you feel it doesn't mean it's true. Sometimes the source of emotions can be fatigue, hunger, irritation, or just a runny nose. Whether you feel good or bad, the future will not change. Feelings may be true, but they are not truth.
9. Don't give in to apathy
Practice being an optimist. If you expect bad things in life and at work, you will find them. Having a negative mindset is like looking at the world through distorted, dirty glasses. It's amazing how you can see something that isn't there if you start looking. Start looking for positive things and you will, of course, find them.
10. Don't live in the past
This advice is the most important of all: forget and move on with your life. Most of the anger, frustration, unhappiness and despair in this world comes from people holding on to past hurts and problems. The more you replay them in your mind, the larger they will seem, and the worse you will feel. Forget and move on. Do this and take away the power of the past to hurt you.
1. Many problems come from the mind. They are not the result of any events, failures, or actions of other people. They arise due to our bad mental habits. Free yourself from these 10 behaviors, and immediately get rid of the many problems each of them causes:
2. Don't jump to conclusions. This habit can make life difficult in two ways. First, we assume we know what will happen, so we turn off our attention and act on that assumption. People are lousy prophets. Most of their assumptions are wrong, and hence their actions are wrong. The second side of this habit is that we imagine that we can read minds, and seem to know why other people do, what they do, or what they think. Again wrong, and fundamentally wrong. It is this stupidity that destroys relationships like no other.
3. Don't be dramatic. Many make deadly disasters out of minor failures, and react accordingly. The habit of making mountains out of molehills creates anxiety that either does not exist or is so small that there is nothing to worry about. Why do they do this? Who knows? Maybe to look and feel more important. Either way, it's as stupid as it is harmful.
4. Don't make up rules. A huge part of all these “shoulds” and “shoulds” that you are running around with are probably useless. All they give you is nervousness and guilt. For what? By following these imaginary rules, you fill your brain with unnecessary obstacles and childish routines. And when you try to transfer these rules to others, you turn into a frighteningly boring whiner or a self-confident fanatic.
5. Avoid stereotypes and labels. The words you use can set you up. The language of negativity and criticism breeds the same kind of thinking. By trying to squeeze things into certain categories, you stop seeing their real meaning, thereby limiting your thinking to the point of complete uselessness. Look what's there. Don't label. You will be surprised by what you see.
6. Don't be a perfectionist. Life is not just “black or white” or “all or nothing”. In most cases, “enough” means just that: enough. If you look for the perfect job, you will most likely never find it. At the same time, all other jobs will seem worse to you than they really are. You will be looking for the perfect relationship, and you will probably spend your whole life alone. Perfectionism is a mental illness that will not allow you to enjoy, but will send you every time in search of what is not there.
7. Don't generalize. One or two failures are not a sign of permanent failure. And an occasional triumph does not turn you into a genius. A single event - good or bad - or even two or three events is not always a sign of a long-term trend. As a rule, things are what they are and nothing more.
8. Don't take it to heart. Most people, even your friends and colleagues, don't talk, think or care about you 99% of the time. People from your organization, or those living next door, have probably never even heard of you. Yes, actually, he doesn’t want to hear it. The ups and downs of life, the warmth and indifference of other people have nothing to do with you personally. If they pretend, it will only make you feel more miserable than necessary.
9. Don't trust your emotions. What you feel is not always a good indicator of what is actually happening. Just because you feel it doesn't mean it's true. Sometimes the source of emotions can be fatigue, hunger, irritation, or just a runny nose. Whether you feel good or bad, the future will not change. Feelings may be true, but they are not truth.
10. Don't give in to apathy. Practice being an optimist. If you expect bad things in life and at work, you will find them. A negative attitude is the same as looking at the world through distorted, dirty glasses. You will notice only the shortcomings, not paying attention or not noticing everything else. It's amazing how you can see something that isn't there if you just start looking. And of course, if you start looking for positive things, you will find them too.
11. Don't live in the past. This advice is the most important of all: forget and move on with your life. Most of the anger, frustration, unhappiness and despair in this world comes from people holding on to past hurts and problems. The more you replay them in your mind, the larger they will seem to you, and the worse you will feel. Don't fight misfortune. Forget and move on. Do this, and thereby deprive him of the power to hurt you.
1. Don't jump to conclusions
This habit can make life difficult in two ways. First, we assume we know what will happen, so we turn off our attention and act on the assumption. People are lousy prophets. Most of their assumptions are wrong, and therefore their actions are wrong. The second side of the habit is that we imagine that we can read minds and seem to know why other people do what they do. Again wrong, and fundamentally wrong. It is this stupidity that destroys relationships like no other.
2. Don't be dramatic
Many people make deadly disasters out of minor failures and react accordingly. Why do they do this? Who knows? Maybe to look and feel more important. Either way, it's as stupid as it is harmful.
3. Don't make up rules.
A huge part of all these “shoulds” and “shoulds” that you are running around with are probably useless. All they give you is nervousness and guilt. For what? By following these imaginary rules, you fill your brain with unnecessary obstacles and childish routines. And when you try to transfer these rules to others, you turn into a frighteningly boring whiner or a self-confident fanatic.
4. Avoid stereotypes and labels
The words you use can deceive you. The language of negativity and criticism breeds the same kind of thinking. By trying to squeeze things into certain categories, you stop seeing their real meaning, thereby limiting your thinking to the point of complete uselessness.
5. Don't be a perfectionist
Life is not just “black or white” or “all or nothing”. In most cases, “enough” means just that: enough. If you look for the perfect job, you will most likely never find it. At the same time, all other jobs will seem worse to you than they really are. Perfectionism is a mental illness that will not allow you to enjoy, but will send you every time in search of what is not there.
6. Don't generalize
One or two failures are not a sign of permanent failure. And an occasional triumph does not turn you into a genius. A single event - good or bad - or even two or three events does not always indicate a trend. As a rule, things are what they are and nothing more.
7. Don't take it personally
Most people, even your friends and colleagues, don't talk, think or care about you 99% of the time. People from your organization, or those living next door, have probably never even heard of you. Yes, actually, he doesn’t want to hear it. The ups and downs of life, the warmth and indifference of other people have nothing to do with you personally.
8. Don't trust your emotions
What you feel is not always a good indicator of what is actually happening. Just because you feel it doesn't mean it's true. Sometimes the source of emotions can be fatigue, hunger, irritation, or just a runny nose. Whether you feel good or bad, the future will not change. Feelings may be true, but they are not truth.
9. Don't give in to apathy
Practice being an optimist. If you expect bad things in life and at work, you will find them. Having a negative mindset is like looking at the world through distorted, dirty glasses. It's amazing how you can see something that isn't there if you start looking. Start looking for positive things and you will, of course, find them.
10. Don't live in the past
This advice is the most important of all: forget and move on with your life. Most of the anger, frustration, unhappiness and despair in this world comes from people holding on to past hurts and problems. The more you replay them in your mind, the larger they will seem, and the worse you will feel. Forget and move on. Do this and take away the power of the past to hurt you.
from My Luxury Life! Make your life brighter!
There is hardly a person who has not heard of Roman Abramovich. Abramovich is a typical example of what Americans call a self-made-man. Having started as a mechanic for the SU-122 of the Mosspetsmontazh trust in 1987, as of 2017 he ranks 12th on the list richest people Russia, according to Forbes magazine, with a fortune of 9.1 billion dollars.
Here is a list of his advice for those who want to achieve success in life.
People are very bad at predicting the future. Most assumptions are wrong, and wrong actions follow from them. We think that we can read other people's thoughts, we know the reasons for other people's actions. This is fundamentally wrong and destroys relationships like nothing else.
Many people make mountains out of molehills by imagining minor setbacks as near-deadly disasters and reacting accordingly. This habit creates a constant feeling of anxiety, which, in fact, is not there at all or is so insignificant that there is no need to worry.
Each person can answer what he should do and what he should do. Surely, most of these rules are not only useless, but also harmful, because they bring feelings of guilt and nervousness. By following invented rules, you create unnecessary barriers in your mind.
The words you use can play tricks on you. The language of criticism and negativity creates exactly the same thinking. Accordingly, when you begin to adjust the existing order of things to fit your categories, you simply stop seeing their real meaning, which limits your thinking.
Life is not divided into only black and white, and the “all or nothing” principle can only work in a casino. If your goal is the perfect job, then you can spend your whole life looking for it and never find anything. At the same time, no matter where you work, everything will seem worse to you than it really is. Perfectionism will every time force you to look for something that really isn’t there.
Having a couple of failures does not mean that you will fail in the end. In the same way, a stunning occasional triumph is not a sign of permanent success in business. One, two, or even three good or bad events are not a sign of a permanent trend. Things are simply what they really are, nothing more.
You must understand that your loved ones, friends and colleagues do not think about you all the time. Your housemates or co-workers may never have heard of you. The ups and downs of life, the warmth and indifference of other people have nothing to do with you personally.
What you feel is not always a good indicator of what is actually happening. Just because you feel it doesn't mean it's true. Sometimes the source of emotions can be fatigue, hunger, irritation, or just a runny nose. Whether you feel good or bad, the future will not change. Feelings may be true, but they are not truth.
Practice being an optimist. If you expect bad things in life and at work, you will find them. A negative attitude is the same as looking at the world through distorted, dirty glasses. You will notice only the shortcomings, not paying attention or not noticing everything else.
